How Long Does Sleep Training Really Take to Work?
A Realistic Guide for Parents
By Jade LiManni, MASTER Sleep Consultant
As a mom and pediatric sleep consultant, I often get asked the same burning question:
"How long will it take to sleep train my baby?"
It's a common concern because sleep is crucial for both babies and parents alike. But how long should you expect to be in the trenches? The answer might surprise you…
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Understanding the Basics of Sleep Training
First things first: every baby is unique. What works like magic for one baby may not necessarily work for another.
Similarly, the duration of sleep training can vary based on factors such as age, temperament, and existing sleep habits. However, on average, most babies start showing improvement falling asleep independently at bedtime within 3-7 days of starting sleep training.
Naps can be tougher! Expect to see some progress in falling asleep and lengthening into those chunky naps within 2-6 weeks of starting sleep training.
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Setting Realistic Expectations Around Sleep Training
It's important to approach sleep training with realistic expectations. While some babies might adapt to new sleep routines quickly, others may take a bit longer to settle into a new rhythm.
Remember, you're not alone in this. Many parents experience ups and downs during the process. So much so, there is even something called an “extinction burst” around nights 3-5 after starting sleep training, where some families experience a harder night again after seeing some previous improvements.
Progress isn’t always linear!
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Different Methods, Different Timelines
The duration of sleep training also depends on the method you choose. Whether you opt for the gradual "Ferber Method”, the Stay-In-The-Room / "Chair Method”, or another approach, each method has its own timeline. Some methods provide quicker results but might involve more initial crying, while gentler methods may take longer to see noticeable changes.
To learn more about the most popular methods of sleep training, check out our blog post “What the Heck is Sleep Training Anyway? Do You Really Need to Do It to Get Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night?” Here’s a brief overview of some of them:
Overview of the Main Methods of Sleep Training
Graduated Extinction / Leave-and-Check / Ferber Method: Often sees improvements within a week, but may involve more initial crying. This method involves letting your baby cry for increasing intervals before offering comfort, helping them learn to self-soothe and fall asleep independently.
Stay-In-The-Room / Chair Method: Can take up to a few weeks as it involves gradual withdrawal from the room. Parents start by sitting in a chair next to the crib and slowly move the chair farther away over several nights until they are out of the room entirely. This method tends to be gentler and can be less stressful for both the baby and the parents. That said, if you find you get more stressed by hearing your baby cry with your presence, or your baby is actually more stressed by your presence, then this may not be the best method for you.
Cry-It-Out / Full Extinction Method: Typically results in the most immediate improvement but can be the hardest method to do, as it is the least hands-on. This method involves you putting your baby in the crib and then leaving the room and not going back in. While there is a ton of research to show that this method doesn’t harm the child, it is certainly not a method you need to resort to. There are plenty of other ways to help your child learn independent sleep quickly.
If you’re interested in learning more about the methods and how we would help you approach this with your child, please book a complimentary discovery call with someone on our team. We’d love to answer your questions about the methods and explain our approach.
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Consistency is Key
As is true for learning any new skill, consistency is the secret ingredient to successful sleep training. The worst thing you can do during the sleep training process is cave and give in to old ways.
Babies thrive on routines, so sticking to a consistent sleep schedule and bedtime routine can greatly expedite the process. Even if setbacks occur, staying consistent with your approach will help your baby understand what to expect and when.
Here are some of the common pitfalls we find when parents start sleep training that can delay progress:
Common Pitfalls During SLeep Training:
Inconsistency: Changing methods or routines frequently can confuse your baby and hinder progress. Stick to your chosen method for at least a week before considering adjustments. This is extremely important.
Unrealistic Expectations: Again, expecting immediate results can lead to frustration. Understand that some setbacks are normal and part of the process! I sound like a broken record, but I mean it: progress isn’t linear!
Lack of Routine: Babies LOVE routines! It’s in our nature. Inconsistent bedtime routines can disrupt your baby's sense of security. Establish a calming pre-sleep routine and stick to it every night. For some ideas on crafting the best bedtime routine (especially with multiple kids!) take a look at my blog post “How to Navigate Bedtime Solo with Multiple Children and Differing Routines”.
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Patience, Patience, Patience
I know first-hand that patience is your best friend during sleep training. There will be good nights and challenging nights. Celebrate the small victories and be patient during setbacks. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is a perfect sleep routine!
Keep in mind that it’s normal to encounter setbacks. It’s how you deal with them that makes a difference. Factors such as illness, travel, or developmental milestones can temporarily disrupt sleep patterns. When setbacks occur, try to remain patient and consistent. Revert to your established sleep training routine as soon as possible.
If you've been diligently trying to sleep train your baby without seeing any progress after a few weeks, it might be time to consult with a pediatric sleep consultant like me or any member on the Kelly Murray Sleep Squad. We can provide personalized guidance and rule out any underlying issues that could be affecting your baby's sleep.
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Sleep Training Is a Journey
Parents often worry about the emotional impact of sleep training on their baby. It's important to note that while there may be some initial fussiness or crying, sleep training, when done correctly and consistently, is safe and can lead to improved sleep for the entire family. Be responsive and loving during the daytime to ensure your baby feels secure and loved.
It's okay to seek support and take it one night at a time. Before you know it, you'll be enjoying more restful nights and happier mornings with your little one. Hang in there, parents—you've got this!
We Are Here to Help!
If your child is currently facing sleep challenges, please know that you have solutions available to you and we are ready to help! It is the most amazing feeling watching your child learn this life skill of independent sleep in a mere matter of days. Not only does your child’s sleep improve, the whole family’s does, too.
We hope this information and our tips help you to determine if sleep training might be the right next move for your family. We know that it’s a big decision, and that’s why we are here to hold your hand every step of the way while providing expert guidance and solutions to help your child become the best little sleeper they can be.
To learn more about what sleep training could look like for your family, please schedule a complimentary discovery call with us and learn more about who we are on the Kelly Murray Sleep Squad.
All team members have completed training with Kelly and have learned the Murray Method. Kelly continues to support, guide and oversee the Sleep Squad as they work with the families who trust in us. This way, all clients are able to experience the same amazing results (and lots and lots of sleep).
Sweet Dreams…
Kelly Murray is a certified sleep coach for adults and children based in Chicago offering sleep coaching services nationwide.
